Anxiety Disorders Children
In dealing with your child’s attention seeking behavior, you can find help from the numerous books about parenting
that the experts have written over the years. Attention seeking behavior in children is common and usually nothing to worry about, but many parents worry about what parenting strategy they should use. There is a wide rage of approaches from surrendering to your children all the time to always sticking to your point.
Most people would say they have no pre-determined parenting strategy; that it comes naturally to them and they do what they feel is best. Others don’t feel comfortable unless they have read the ‘manuals’ and have a proscribed method to follow. Whichever school of thought you belong to, the problems you face are the same. Attention seeking behavior is a common issue faced by parents and here are some strategies to deal with it:
1. Don’t always respond
Children try to get your attention. Whether that is positive or negative attention, if they get a result from their actions they will do it again and again. If you always respond (positively or negatively), then the behavior is likely to be repeated. Part of the parenting strategy to deal with problem needs to be to ignore it sometimes.
2. Encourage good behavior
Your child wants and needs attention. Make sure you give them positive attention for positive behavior. A positive parenting strategy like this encourages further good behavior as the child will see that it gets more results than their negative behavior.
3. Invest quality time with your child
Make sure you spend enough time with your children, and let them know that the time spent was special for you. Even if it is only 10 minutes, tell them that it is their special time with you and do something worthwhile. It’s no good cooking the dinner and trying to talk to them while you’re doing it – the child won’t see that as attention. Any parenting strategy must include devoted time with your children daily.
4. Tell them your limits
Depending on the age of your child let them know that you do have other things or other children to deal with. No parenting strategy will eliminate the need to do your chores! Sometimes a response such as “I’ll play the game when I’ve finished the laundry” will stop whining and nagging, but only if you follow through when you say it. There’s no point saying “in 5 minutes” and never get to the 5 minutes. If you can, get your child to help you with what you are doing.
5. Know how to proceed when it gets too much
Sometimes people who like to get noticed may fall into a serious problem. If you’re worried about your child’s behavior, you must see the family doctor, who can advise you and suggest you to be in touch with some other agencies that can be helpful. If you think you’re getting too worried about your child, then you must get some help, and many doctors understand such problems. Unfortunately no parenting strategy will lead to a stress-free life. And through all this stress, you can find solace in books about parenting that are widely available and that can guide you on exactly how to deal with this stress.