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Grandparents Visitation Rights Are Allowed

Grandparents now have visitation in every state you just have to research the laws of your state to know where your state  stands on the issues. Almost anything you try to do begins with a plan, grandparents visitation rights aren’t any different.your best chance to obtain grandparents visitation rights is understanding how to do it. A very good plan or some help from an attorney will assist you in gaining a scheduled visitation. There are three useful recommendations in this article which will help you. Considering the suggestions below will give you a good edge and raise the likelihood of your success.

When you first start the process of gaining grandparents visitation rights, you should understand that it is extremely critical to have an appropriate plan to start with, and not stray away from your goals. It may turn out that this process takes longer than you were thinking and you end up thinking it’s not gonna happen, or maybe you wonder what you grandchildren are thinking about what’s going on.

Here is a helpful listing of things you can do to stay out of trouble and  you may want to check out

“The Grandparents Rights Custody Center “:

1. If you can’t communicate with the parents without a fuss,then just don’t talk with them about it.

You will need to talk with the parents at some point but since it can avoid cross words during the process of gaining visitation then maybe it’s best to wait until the terms are in writing. To not get this accomplished may make the waiting process take longer because until it’s in writing you may not have anything.

2. Get it in writing. If you are dealing with parents who are feeling like you are doing something against them then they may just say one thing and do something completely different once they see you have stopped the process.

Almost as important as getting it in writing when you are working with parents who may be having problems themselves will be to try to help them come to terms with there own problems. I want you to know that this isn’t some thing to try to hurt you. It can help to encourage them to maybe give up a drug habit, drinking alcohol or whatever may be causing a problem in the household where your grandchildren live, and that is something that can be in the best interest of the children and that’s what everyone wants.

3. Never Give Up

Lastly, when you are in the process of gaining visitation to never give up hope and you should try to maintain some form of contact with your grandchildren even if it’s in the form of letters. This could help in keeping communication open, an essential part of repairing any relationship. You should not, in any way let these children see you fighting about them — and you’ll most likely agree that that would not be good!

As was stated from the beginning, with regards to gaining visitation, you desperately should try to be sure you never make mistakes that lead to upsetting your grandchildren more than they probably already are, perhaps even turn them against you. You really want to just gain the right to visit with them, and you can make that happen by never giving up.

If you are trying to gain grandparents visitation rights please keep your grandchildren’s best interest in mind. I hope that you are one of those lucky grandparents that has a good relationship with your grandchildren and their parents but if your are not please search out your options at grandparents visitation rights The rights for grandparents custody rights are certainly something to check out. I wish you all the best. Good luck with your grandchildren. Jacquelyn Dunn

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  • kristy jacobs March 20, 2011, 7:06 pm

    I’m a little dissapointed in your postings about grandparents visitation rights. The reason behind this law is to keep healthy relationships available for children. You completely ignore the other side of the spectrum. Where is the advice for the grandparents who are not healthy for their grandkids? My spouse and the father of my kids died three days before thanksgiving. His mother was plastered drunk at the funeral, sat on and slobbered all over the school superintendent who showed up to support our son, derided our decade long relationship as nothing, stole his ashes, and has decided only to be a part of the kids lives when it is convenient for her. I have stopped all communication with my former in laws. Why shouldnt I? Now she wants to sue me for visitation rights. What she fails to realize is at any moment i am within my rights to pick up and move my children and I. Which I will do before it ever comes to a single petition. Maybe an article giving advice on irresponsible grandparenting is in order. It would be a huge relief to me for the kids to be part of this woman’s life, but not until the whole it’s all about her stops. Yes she lost her son, but my children lost a father. It’s supposed to be about them.

  • jacquelyn March 21, 2011, 3:07 pm

    You are absolutely right. Thanks for bringing it to my attention. I guess I write from a stand point of what I have been through and it sounds like you are going through it from the other direction. This is where “In the best interest of the child” comes into play. If it puts your children into an unhealthy relationship then I also say it shouldn’t happen. You and your children are going through a lot of changes right now and a lot of hurt and it will take a lot of time to move forward. I am sure that every situation is different and that there are situations where grandparents shouldn’t have visitation with their grandchildren. Only you know if this is the case and if it is,you do what ever you have to.to protect your children. It sounds like you have a level head about this and know what’s right. I am truly sorry about the lost of your husband and wish you and your family the best. Thanks again for the post and bringing this to my attention.

    Jacquelyn Dunn

  • Marie Badeaux June 23, 2011, 8:35 pm

    I am also disappointed that you took such a one sided view on this issue.

    To advise grandparents to keep fighting no matter what is dangerous when the situation isn’t known.

    In my case my ex-husband is literally insane and in an asylum. This of course was not before he beat me infront his parents while I was holding my child to protect her. Nor was this before he tried to kill himself, again in front of my child, while at his parent’s home for visitation.

    These grandparents have tried to steal my child ssn benefits and committed other acts of fraud. Of which I have pending criminal charges against them.

    This of course didn’t stop them from filing for visitation rights. And, then as you advised all grandparents to do, kept fighting and filed again.

    I am now in the position where these grandparents who are both doctors are using their funds to break me financially with their desire to keep fighting. On the flip side, my child had to be taken out of the school she loved and dance class. She also doesn’t get to see her mother as much, because I get to work two jobs to try to manage the legal bills.

    There are usually many sides to an issue. And, it is somewhat irresponsible to give blanket advice when you don’t know who will take it.

  • jacquelyn December 7, 2011, 12:57 pm

    Marie, Your are right there are two sides to every situation and I’d be curious to hear what these people that you are talking about would say from their point of view. Why would two people who are doctors have to steal your child’s ssn benefits? I hope for your sake and your child’s that the courts can figure out what is going on and that your family can find some peace.


  • Karen A. Wyle December 31, 2011, 10:07 am

    I would add that even in cases where visitation with a grandparent would not in itself be hazardous, the litigation necessary to procure a court order of visitation inflicts very serious financial and emotional stress, and is almost always very harmful to the custodial family, including the child. If the litigation “succeeds,” the result is a child caught in an emotional crossfire for years to come.

  • jacquelyn January 25, 2012, 5:39 pm

    Hi Karen, And the sad part is the truth of the sadness these kind of situations inflict on everyone involved.


  • Cynthia Irish February 23, 2012, 2:26 pm

    All so sad, we are beginning the process of getting visitation to see our grandchildren. We did the supervised visitation for our daughter, who is very sick. Now she is in the hospital and the father has refused to let us see the girls at all. He feels we are only the supervisors so we have no need to see them if she can not be there…he is trying to erase us from their lives. We have tried to talk to to him, but he will not budge. But when he needs a favor, he is all charming. I did not know until after talking to a lawyer that it should have been in the divorce agreement that one side can not alienate the other grandparents, who knew? The children come first and I do believe more is better when it comes to love and we love those girls. I know that this was hard on our ex-son inlaw and he is angry, but we just want to be able to spend time with them…we do not want to fight or cause problems, but feel we have no choice. We never have said a bad thing about him to the girls and when they ask I say I love your daddy because he loves you! It takes all kinds but I wanted to say that there are grands out there that a just got caught in the cross fire and just want to be able to see and spend time with the ones they love!

  • jacquelyn February 23, 2012, 2:41 pm

    Hi Cindy, I have to commend you for not saying anything bad about their daddy to the girls as this would only come back to haunt you and only serve to hurt your granddaughters. I am and have went through similar things. I too get the calls when something is needed but I take joy in it because it is just one more time that I get to spend with my grandchildren. I am usually needed to pick them up from school activities or such.

    Stay strong,neutral and loving but never forget to know your legal rights to see your grandchildren. I really don’t understand why anyone would want to erase us from these children’s lives. Some of my most fond memories were spent with my grandparents.

    My son was killed in a car wreck and I feel that my life has been altered forever and it will only be after my last breath that I don’t fight for the right to see his children.

    I wish you all the luck in the world and if you have legal cancel I know that you are on the right track. If I can help you in anyway just let me know.


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